I received a comment asking about regression which I had decided not to do. I wish I could be more helpful and offer deeper insight but i shut down pretty quickly to the idea. Basically the hypnotist wanted to bring me back, in the trance, to the first time I pulled so that we could better understand why it was I pulled the first time in the hopes that we could change that pattern of behavior.
I guess I've tried so hard over the years to make sense over why I pull but at this point would rather focus on how to stop. It's hard to explain but people trying to tell me what I was feeling or why I started this make me very anxious. Part of me really thinks its genetics because of all the people that have trich in my family. Nancy had told me that really it didnt matter if I could remember exactly what I was doing or feeling at the exact time but we could even plant an idea in my head. She asked me questions like "did you see your mother pull?" (no), "were you upset about a test you were studying for?" (rarely, especially not at that age), were you having family issues?"(eh, always but who the heck remembers specifics), "did you feel lonely or not have many friends so you were upset?" (no, I grew up in a very close community and had a lot of friends in 3rd grade when I had not yet even hit the massive awkward stage).
So I dont know if it would have helped or not or what the process is exactly, I just know that for me it didnt feel like a productive use of the time and money I was spending, especially since I knew that due to limited finances that would likely be my last session). For anyone who may be interested or want to know more, Nancy Donenfeld does answer her own phone and is happy to answer questions so I would encourage you to call her. Sorry I cant be more helpful but if anyone decides to do it I'd love to hear more about it, maybe I should have been more open minded.
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I would have done the same thing. I personally think that trying to go back and figure out why I pulled would have done me no good. I've spent the last 20 years trying to figure that out. I too feel like it is genetic. I would have rather spend my time with the hypnotist working on stopping rather than rehashing the why's and what if's.
ReplyDeleteWell, going back isnt to rehash things just to rehash them. Im pretty sure that Nancy would have helped you to release the emotional/subconcious charge during the time when you first decided to accept the habit.
ReplyDeletePerhaps she would ahve helped me release the emotional charge during the time I first pulled but as I was already closed off to the idea I just personally didnt feel it was the right choice for me. I also have never felt that this is a habit I decided to accept, I truly believe it is genetic and that if I knew or had a choice this would never have been something I would accept- as an 8 year old all you want to do is conform to others and fit in- trich and hair pulling definitely doesnt help that. Again, that's just my opinion, right or wrong, and I'm sure that regression hynotherapy might help for others that are more open to the idea. If you ever try it I'd really love to hear about your experience- maybe I could be more openminded :)
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